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Love: The Mark of a Christian

How to Keep Loving in Difficult Relationships

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Bev DeLashmutt

John 13:34-35; Acts 20:35; Hebrews 12:4-11; Romans 6:16; 2 Timothy 2:24-26

Teaching date: 07/14/2016

Summary

Christ's call for us to love another as he has loved us is not exclusive. He calls us to love even very difficult people, and to do that effectively, we need to bear several things in mind. First we need to gain insight into the lies and sins of difficult people to avoid getting hooked into their relational patterns. We must ensure our motive in responding to people is in line with Christ's love. And finally, we must implement strategies to effectively give both compassion and discipline simultaneously. With these things and the abundant help of the Spirit, we can love in a way that, even if it does not change the other person, it will change us.

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How to Keep Loving in Difficult Relationships

John 13:34-35, Acts 20:35-35, Hebrews 12:4-11

John 13:34-35,Acts 20:35-35,Heb 12:4-11 John 13:34-35, Acts 20:35-35, Heb 12:4-11

By Bev DeLashmutt

Teaching Date: 07/14/2016


Christ's call for us to love another as he has loved us is not exclusive. He calls us to love even very difficult people, and to do that effectively, we need to bear several things in mind. First we need to gain insight into the lies and sins of difficult people to avoid getting hooked into their relational patterns. We must ensure our motive in responding to people is in line with Christ's love. And finally, we must implement strategies to effectively give both compassion and discipline simultaneously. With these things and the abundant help of the Spirit, we can love in a way that, even if it does not change the other person, it will change us.

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